This case deserves a separate consideration, because suggests that a person does not know what he wants of life, and resembles a docile lamb, traveling wherever the herd is running. So, what I broke? Ah, yes. On neuroticism. This is again a question of adoption, which I wrote last issue. Ie Instead of criticizing ourselves for failure, accept yourself as is.
Self-deprecation and other negative feelings does not make you happier, more creative, efficient and, ultimately, successful. So why a once again expose themselves to self-torture? Well if you do not get pleasure from the suffering 😉 What do you do? Give up their aspirations? Putting bar too low? That's you drop it. There is no reason to do so. If you have an idea about NLP, then you know about his presuppositions (original axioms, which are based on the discipline). And among them are two directly related to this article: 1. Any behavior is the best option available at this time. 2. No injuries – there is only feedback.
Let us examine in more detail. I do not know how much you know, but you have a subconscious. And it is very wise and informed. Because remember everything, can handle enormous amount of information and come through this to better decisions than if you simply pondered all consciously. And this decision comes to you in the form of insight or intuition. The subconscious mind – it is almost the ideal tool to achieve goals. Are often different from your conscious goals.